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In this episode, I dive deep into the world of people-pleasing, exploring the behaviors, root causes, and emotional toll it takes on our well-being. If you find it hard to say "no," prioritise others' needs over your own, or fear rejection and conflict, this episode is for you. 

I share personal experiences, real-life examples and actionable strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and reclaim your boundaries.

Key Takeaways:

Signs You’re a People-Pleaser:

Difficulty saying "no," even when it’s inconvenientSeek external validation through helping othersOver-apologizing unnecessarilyAvoiding conflict by agreeing to things you don’t believe inNeglecting your own needs to prioritise others'

Root Causes of People-Pleasing:

Fear of rejection and conflictLow self-worth and equating your value with how much you help othersChildhood conditioning and the need to "stay safe" by being agreeable

Why People-Pleasing is Harmful:

Leads to burnout, overwhelm, and resentmentCreates unhealthy relationships where your needs are sidelinedKeeps you stuck in a cycle of seeking external validation

How to Stop People-Pleasing:

Start small by practicing saying "no" to minor requestsSet clear boundaries and stick to them, even if it surprises othersDevelop self-awareness to recognize when you’re acting out of fear or obligationLearn to regulate your emotions and calm your nervous system (e.g., through heart-based emotional regulation techniques)Shift your mindset: understand that true friends and healthy relationships respect your boundaries

Resources Mentioned:HeartMath techniques for emotional regulation - I can teach you this, email me for info.Gabor Mate's book: When the Body Says No.

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