In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inner work by both partners can facilitate healing while at the same time taking responsibility for their own actions.
Michelle Mays Articles: Offending from the Victim Position
Part 2: Defending Against the Shame Attack
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:
Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com
Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.
Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.
More from Choose Recovery Services:
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery