Choosing to Stay

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast, Hali and Stephanie dive into a listener's question: Does the pain ever go away after betrayal? They explore the emotional realities of betrayal trauma, what healing looks like over time, and how to approach the process of working through pain rather than avoiding it. From personal experiences to professional insights, Hali and Stephanie share: The nature of pain in the aftermath of betrayal. The impact of avoidance and survival mode on healing. How to honor and process pain for long-term growth. The importance of finding meaning in pain and experiencing post-traumatic growth. Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or reflecting on years past, this conversation offers empathy, validation, and hope. Resources Mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman Connect With Us:We love hearing from our listeners! If you have questions or topics you’d like us to address, please reach out. Thank you for tuning in! We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

Rebuilding After Betrayal – An Invitation to Heal Together⁠ I’m excited to introduce the Healing Hearts Live Group, a coaching program designed specifically for couples ready to move from surviving to thriving after betrayal. Why healing after betrayal feels overwhelming and how to take the first steps. The power of group coaching in providing tools, guidance, and shared learning. What makes the Healing Hearts Live Group different from traditional approaches. Practical tools and strategies to rebuild trust, foster communication, and create emotional safety. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start making relational progress, this episode is for you. ⁠Join the Healing Hearts Live Group: Registration & Info⁠ Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we dive into the importance of applying healthy relationship skills in the journey of healing from infidelity and betrayal. We explore key strategies for improving communication, learning and practicing new skills, and how these tools can transform your relationship over time. Whether you’re in the early stages of recovery or looking to strengthen your relationship, the process of healing requires intentional action and consistent effort. We also introduce two powerful resources designed to support couples in their healing journey: the Healing Hearts Couples Coaching Group which will be starting on January 26, 2025  and our upcoming Couple’s Intensive that will be held in Arizona March 26-29, 2025. These resources provide the structure, guidance, and community support needed to put these healing tools into practice. You can register today by clicking on the links above. If you have questions about whether either or both of these options are a good fit for you, feel free to reach out to us at info.choosingtostay@gmail.com.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore why consistency is essential for relational repair, whether you’re the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust. Learn how consistency transforms intention into real change and supports healing for both partners. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In the final episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we focus on how to heal and find joy amidst the chaos, especially when betrayal or family conflict has left emotional scars. The holidays can feel especially heavy during times of hurt, but we discuss how creating new traditions—no matter how small—can offer moments of peace and joy. We explore how stepping out of old traditions that no longer serve you can be a powerful act of self-care, and how to build a holiday season that feels right for you and your family. Plus, we dive into the unique challenges of navigating these shifts when you have children at home and how to find balance between your own healing and supporting their needs. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

The holiday season can be full of joy—but it can also be a time of deep emotional strain, especially if you’re navigating grief and betrayal. In this second episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we dive into how to protect your peace during this challenging time. We explore the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with yourself and others, and how to create emotional safety in your own heart. By tuning into your needs, learning to honor them, and embracing self-compassion, you can move through the holidays with a sense of calm and resilience, even amidst difficult circumstances. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we’re diving into a topic that can bring up deep emotions for many—navigating the holiday season after the pain of betrayal. This episode offers guidance for those who are facing this season with new and complex challenges, helping you find ways to care for yourself, set realistic expectations, and create safe spaces for connection. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of prioritizing your own healing in the wake of betrayal when your spouse is struggling. We discuss strategies to maintain your well-being while supporting your partner, emphasizing the importance of self-care, communication, and setting boundaries. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of healing after infidelity and betrayal, exploring why individual growth alone isn’t sufficient for restoring a relationship. Join us as we discuss the importance of moving beyond mere checkbox recovery, peeling back the layers of inner work, and fostering a sense of community while avoiding isolation. We’ll also touch on the significance of patience and understanding in the healing process as you focus on intentional consistency over time.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this exciting episode of Choosing to Stay, co-hosts Hallie and Stephanie dive into Stephanie’s latest project—her new podcast, Renewed Restored. Stephanie shares how this new venture focuses on whole-person healing: addressing mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical recovery, especially for those who have experienced betrayal trauma and those working on sexual integrity. Listeners will hear how Stephanie's pastoral background, coaching expertise, and personal experiences have shaped her vision for Renewed Restored, creating a space for individuals to find healing and growth. With professional guests, insightful topics, and a focus on faith-based transformation, Renewed Restored is set to guide listeners through recovery with compassion and clarity. If you're seeking tools for both personal healing and spiritual renewal, this is the podcast for you! Tune in to hear more about how Renewed Restored complements the work being done in Choosing to Stay and offers an additional resource for those on their path to wholeness. Email Stephanie info.renewedrestored@gmail.com Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram