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#71 From Shock to Stability: Addressing Current Pain and Uncovering Past Issues
September 19, 2024 · 29 min

In today’s episode, we delve into the critical steps of moving from immediate shock and pain to finding safety and stability initially. Addressing deeper relational issues is essential to relational repair, and sometimes those challenging dynamics appear because of unhealed wounding that one or both spouses may have been carrying for years. Using the powerful analogy of a car wreck, we explore how both partners are impacted by betrayal and the urgent need to manage immediate pain before tackling underlying relationship dynamics. Once a couple has moved into a state of stability, we can transition to exploring other unhealthy dynamics that may contribute to relational challenges. We discuss how to identify and address these deeper relational issues to prevent future problems and foster long-term healing.

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Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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