In this deeply personal episode, Dr. Lori steps away from her usual interviewer role to share the story behind "For Shitty Moms" and her own journey through motherhood. As a behavior analyst with a doctorate in applied behavior analysis, she reveals how her professional expertise intersects with her parenting challenges, particularly as she navigates raising a confident Black son while managing her own recently diagnosed ADHD.
The podcast's name comes from those moments all parents experience, when we fall short of our own expectations or when setting boundaries makes us feel like we're somehow failing. Dr. Lori candidly discusses the "struggle and juggle" of motherhood, rejecting the myth of work-life balance in favor of a more realistic approach where sometimes certain priorities must temporarily take precedence while others wait.
Particularly moving is her discussion of parenting a Black son in a system that often doesn't extend the same grace to children of color. She shares both heartbreak and pride in watching her child develop resilience in the face of microaggressions, revealing the complex emotions that come with preparing him for a world that may not always see his full potential.
What sets this episode apart is Dr. Lori’s unflinching honesty about the role financial status plays in accessing parenting resources. Having worked to create a career that allows her flexibility, she acknowledges this privilege while offering practical strategies for those without the same options. From panic-inducing misunderstandings with teachers to the transformative advice about letting partners parent their own way, her stories resonate with authenticity.
Whether you're a longtime listener or new to the show, this episode provides valuable insight into using behavior modification principles to improve your parenting experience. Subscribe now and join a community of parents who are embracing their imperfect moments while striving for growth.
⏰ Chapter Markers ⏰
0:34 - Show Introduction and Sponsorship
1:36 - Meet Dr. DeLoren: Background and Profession
4:47 - Applying Behavior Analysis to Motherhood
11:19 - Educational Journey and Career Path
19:29 - Origins of the Show's Concept
26:33 - Motherhood Challenges and ADHD Diagnosis
37:11 - Coping with "Shitty Mom" Moments
47:05 - The Role of Income in Motherhood
54:18 - Parenting as a Black Mother
1:03:24 - Struggle and Juggle vs. Work-Life Balance
1:08:45 - Best Parenting Advice: Let Partners Help
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