Narrate the Scene Instead

I’ve told the story about where the concept of BF came from…

You never want to accuse your bully of bullying directly—you might as well tell them they’ve won.

Calling them a bully is giving them a title of power—it says you hold power over me, you're scary.

Instead calmly describe what they do and what you do in a matter-of-fact way.

Keep these three steps in mind:

Be carefree--big body language, upright posture, open gestures and a take it or leave it attitude.

Make sure your body matches your words—leave me alone while walking away—you’re annoying while rolling your eyes.

And the final punch: Describe the scene like the narrator of a story

Break down what's going on for the bully and everyone who happens to be around. It puts you in the power position because you're telling, not pleading, asking, whining or accusing.

Rather than complaining and whining, which is weak, CALL them out.

And just in case the bully doesn't really know what they're doing is wrong or that you consider them a bully, you'll shine a light on their actions for all to see.

Show the whole world it's the bully who keeps coming back for more even though you’ve moved on.

You’re relaxed, over it, bored…I’ve dropped the rope but you just keep on pulling, Bully.

Narrate the scene to expose the cycle, and remember complaining is only tossing them more bully snacks.