The Narcissism Decoder

In this conversation, Valerie Greene discusses the concept of codependency, contrasting it with interdependence. She explains how codependency is rooted in childhood experiences and emotional neglect, leading individuals to prioritize others' needs over their own. The discussion delves into the impact of these dynamics on relationships and through personal anecdotes Valerie demonstrates the importance of healthy communication and differentiation. She also shares personal insights and strategies for healing codependency, highlighting the need for collaboration and self-awareness in relationships. We examine how healthy boundaries and collaboration enable deeper connections.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

 In this episode, I share a clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love, where we explore two of the biggest questions people ask about narcissistic relationships: how to recognize if your partner is on the narcissistic spectrum, and why these relationships are so painfully hard to break free from. We get into the difference between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, the fantasy that keeps people stuck, and the deeper emotional wounds that often drive these dynamics. Curious for more? I’ll be sharing another clip next week—or you can check out the full interview now via the link below. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this conversation, I sit down with Rebecca Zung, an expert in negotiating with narcissists. We discuss the complexities of negotiation when dealing with individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behavior, and the need for strategic documentation to leverage situations effectively. The discussion also introduces the SLAY method, which stands for Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You, as a framework for successful negotiation. Through real-life examples and practical advice, Rebecca provides insights into how to navigate challenging relationships with narcissists.Rebecca's Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-your-best-life-podcast-with-rebecca-zung/id1408141817https://www.rebeccazung.com/negotiate-your-best-life-podcast/To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella interviews Dr. Debi, a leading expert in betrayal recovery. They explore the unique trauma of betrayal, its profound impact on trust and identity, and the healing process. Dr. Debi shares her groundbreaking research findings, including the five stages of healing from betrayal and the concept of post-betrayal transformation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and the choice to heal as essential components of recovery from betrayal.More Information about Dr. Debi can be found here: https://thepbtinstitute.com  The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilberYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this episode, we explore the toxic power struggles inherent in vulnerable narcissism, particularly through the lens of parenting dynamics. We examine how dependency, control, and the cycle of shame play out in parent-child relationships. This episode uncovers the deep emotional conflicts that shape vulnerable narcissism and offers insights into therapeutic approaches to address these dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the impact of "toxic" communication styles and the importance of understanding these patterns in order to foster growth and break free from these destructive dynamics.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Jin explore the cult-like dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the profound psychological toll they take on victims. They discuss how survivors often struggle with a loss of identity, the lingering internalized critical voice of the narcissist, and the complex grieving process that follows. Jin sheds light on the role of trauma bonding in keeping victims trapped and outlines essential steps for reclaiming one’s voice and sense of self. The conversation underscores the importance of community support, the unique challenges therapists face in treating survivors, and the hope that exists beyond narcissistic abuse.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this episode, I sit down with Jin from Narc Troopers—a writer, educator, podcaster, and narcissistic abuse recovery facilitator— to explore the psychological dynamics that keep people stuck in toxic narcissistic relationships and why breaking free can feel impossible. We discuss the fantasy that keeps people trapped, the impact of early childhood development, and Shelly Bach’s concept of pathological mourning. We also touch on the dead mother theory by André Green and its relevance to feeling trapped.This is just a segment of our conversation—if you want the full depth of our discussion and more insights on healing, be sure to check out the full interview. narctroopers.com To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

This episode is Part 2 of my conversation on Dimming the Gaslight with hosts Mac and Phil, where we dive even deeper into the complexities of narcissism. We explore the motivations behind narcissistic behavior, the struggle with forgiveness, and how therapy can facilitate change. We also discuss the emotional push-pull in relationships with narcissists, the role of brain chemistry, and the tough decision of when to walk away. Understanding these dynamics is key to personal growth and healing.Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abusehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dimming-the-gaslight-our-healing-journey-from/id1602899691To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

In this episode, we explore the insidious impact of covert narcissism on parent-child relationships with expert Renee Swanson. We discuss how emotional manipulation can masquerade as love, creating lasting confusion and self-doubt. We examine how these patterns shape adult relationships and the challenges of breaking free. Finally, we highlight the power of connection over correction in parenting and share strategies for healing and repairing the relationship. To Listen to Part 2 of my discussion with Renee or to learn more about her work please visit:  https://www.covertnarcissism.com/https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...

 I’m really excited to share some big news with you—this Friday, March 14th, at 7 p.m. EST, I’ll be going LIVE on YouTube for a special podcast recording with Lisa Taylor Austin! We'll explore why people stay in relationships with narcissistic partners despite clear emotional turmoil. The conversation will dive into the compelling fantasy that keeps people bound to these relationships—the shared fantasy or "magical union" between the narcissist’s grandiose self and the partner’s hopes for emotional fulfillment. Please join us on utube:  https://youtube.com/live/zPOfW1JgnfU?feature=share  To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics. You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder ...