Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity

In today's episode, I'm discussingsomething I see constantly in my therapy practice - attachment styles and how they profoundly impact our intimate relationships. As this topic becomes increasingly mainstream, I want to help you understand what your attachment style means for your relationships and, most importantly, how you can develop healthier patterns.In this episode, you'll discover:The four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) and how they develop from our earliest relationshipsReal-world examples of how attachment styles show up in adult relationships, from the partner who panics when their spouse is 10 minutes late to the one who never shares their feelingsHow to develop an "earned secure attachment" - the gold standard for healthy relationships, regardless of your starting pointThe encouraging truth about neuroplasticity and how your attachment style can change with awareness and the right supportWhether you're struggling to understand why your relationships follow certain patterns or you're simply curious about improving your connection with your partner, this episode offers practical insights and hope for positive change. As someone who's helped countless couples navigate these waters, I can tell you that understanding attachment styles is often the first step toward profound relationship transformation.Join me for this important conversation about making your relationships safer, stronger, and more fulfilling. Remember, we're all in this together, and there's always hope for positive change.TAKE ACTION:Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTodd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com  Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYMBetter Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife JOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager

In this episode Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager is diving deep into something he's observed over decades of working with couples - the devastating hidden costs of not addressing broken communication patterns in your relationship. Having worked with countless couples, he's seen how unresolved communication issues can slowly erode what was once a sacred connection, leading couples to simply "settle" for a shell of what their relationship could be.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why those "little arguments" are actually symptoms of deeper disconnection, and how to identify what's really causing conflict in your relationship• The surprising ways poor communication patterns can impact your physical health, from cardiovascular issues to a weakened immune system• How to recognize when you're settling for less in your relationship and what to do before reaching the point of no return• The truth about why most of us struggle with healthy communication (hint: it's not your fault) and how to break free from protective patterns that keep us stuckHere's the reality - most of us never had good role models for healthy communication. But that doesn't mean we have to accept a disconnected relationship. Whether you're constantly bickering or avoiding difficult conversations altogether, this episode will help you understand why you're stuck and how to move toward the deep, fulfilling connection you deserve.Don't wait until your relationship reaches a crisis point. Join me to learn how to transform your communication patterns from ones that lead to disconnection to ones that foster love, understanding, and true intimacy. Together, let's make the world safe for love.TAKE ACTION:Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTodd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com  Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYMBetter Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife JOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over, despite how much you love each other? In this powerful episode, I dive deep into why love alone isn't enough to break free from repetitive conflict patterns and what you can do to create lasting change in your relationship.Here's what you'll discover:• The surprising reason why we get stuck in survival mode during arguments, and how our childhood experiences shape our current relationship patterns• A practical, two-part solution to break free from repetitive conflicts through curiosity and awareness• The transformative power of slowing down and recognizing your blind spots to create deeper connection with your partnerWhether you're feeling frustrated by constant bickering or simply want to enhance your relationship, this episode offers valuable insights to help you move from reactive patterns to conscious, loving communication.I share personal examples and practical strategies that you can start using today to create the joyful, passionate partnership you deserve.Ready to transform your relationship? Listen now to learn how to break free from repeating arguments and create a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner. Remember, it's not about perfect communication - it's about growing together through understanding and awareness.TAKE ACTION:Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTodd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com  Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYMBetter Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife JOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager

In this powerful episode of the Let's Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity podcast, I'm going to share why those moments when you freeze up, explode, or feel emotionally flooded aren't signs that you're broken – they're actually your nervous system trying to protect you. Through my years of experience as a therapist, I've seen countless individuals and couples transform their relationships once they understand what's really happening in their body during these challenging moments.In this episode, you'll discover:- Why your "fight, flight, or freeze" responses aren't character flaws, but natural protective mechanisms rooted in your nervous system- The fascinating science behind the vagus nerve and how it influences your reactions in relationships- Real-life stories of transformation, including how one client overcame his inability to speak to adults through understanding and rewiring his nervous system- Practical techniques to help you and your partner move from triggering each other to creating a safe, connected relationshipIf you've ever wondered "what's wrong with me?" during relationship conflicts, this episode will give you a completely new perspective on your reactions and provide hope for lasting change. I'll share both the science and the solutions in my warm, accessible style, helping you understand that you're not broken – you're just need tools to help your nervous system regulate in healthier ways.Ready to transform your relationship? Don't miss my special offer for my "From Bickering and Escalating to Connecting and Loving" program, where you'll learn exactly how to put these insights into practice with your partner.Learn more here: 

Ever wonder why talking about relationship problems sometimes makes things worse? In this  episode, Todd Creager therapist and relationship expert shares why "just talking about it" isn't always the solution – and what you can do instead. He's seen countless couples struggle with communication, only to end up more frustrated than when they started. But there's hope, and he's here to show you a better way.In this episode, you'll discover:- The crucial difference between "venting" and "sharing," and why one builds connection while the other creates distance- How to move past surface-level "secondary emotions" like anger and frustration to reach the vulnerable, primary emotions that lead to real understanding- Simple techniques to create a safe space for authentic communication, including non-verbal cues that can transform your conversationsWhether you're struggling with constant arguments or just want to enhance your relationship's communication, this episode offers practical insights to help you and your partner truly connect. Join Todd Creager as he explains how to make your conversations count and create the deep, meaningful connection you've been seeking. Because when we communicate with the right intent, amazing things happen. As always, I'm here to make the world safe for love.Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

In this episode,  Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager dives deep into what our parents (and society) never taught us about healthy love. Just like we take golf lessons to improve our swing or attend medical school to become doctors, shouldn't we learn how to create and maintain healthy relationships? Drawing from my 40+ years of experience as a relationship expert, I share why most of us weren't taught the essential skills for lasting love and what we can do about it.Key takeaways from this episode:- Discover the three pillars of healthy love: repair, attunement, and curiosity - and how to implement them in your relationship- Learn why conflict feels so unsafe and how to transform your connection to be stronger than your pain- Understand how to express yourself authentically instead of just presenting what you think others want to see- Find out why it's never too late to learn healthy love skills, regardless of your age or relationship historyWhether you're struggling with communication, feeling disconnected, or simply want to enhance your relationship, this episode provides practical insights to help you create the loving partnership you desire. Join me in making the world safer for healthy love - one relationship at a time. Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

Have you ever wished you could stop an argument with your partner before it spirals out of control? In this episode, I share powerful insights on how to hit the pause button on conflicts before they even begin. Drawing from my 40 years of experience as a relationship therapist, I'll show you how to transform potentially explosive situations into opportunities for deeper connection.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why your brain tricks you into overreacting during arguments and the simple breathing technique to regain control• The game-changing difference between "clean intentions" and defensive reactions that can instantly defuse tension• How to share your feelings vulnerably without blame, even when you're angry or hurt• Practical steps to break free from triggering patterns that lead to fightsHere's the truth: fights don't just happen - we create them through unconscious patterns and reactions. But with the right tools and awareness, you can learn to pause, reset, and respond in ways that bring you closer rather than push you apart. The impact of mastering this skill goes beyond just avoiding arguments - it creates a foundation of safety and connection that benefits your whole family.Ready to transform your relationship dynamics? Join me for this insightful episode where I'll teach you exactly how to catch yourself before reactions take over and create the loving connection you desire.Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

Ever wonder why your partner seems to be listening but isn't really hearing you? In this eye-opening episode, I reveal the fascinating neurochemical reason behind why your partner tunes out during conversations or gets defensive when you're trying to communicate.As someone who's worked with countless couples (and experienced this in my own marriage!), I'll explain why it's not just about "not caring" - it's actually about what's happening in your partner's brain.In this episode, you'll discover:- The surprising role dopamine plays in why your partner might choose their phone over listening to you (and what to do about it)- Why defensive reactions are actually fear responses in disguise, and how understanding this can transform your conversations- A practical approach to breaking the cycle of poor communication that creates lasting, sustainable change in your relationshipIf you're tired of feeling unheard or want to become a better listener yourself, this episode offers real solutions that go beyond simple communication techniques. I'll share personal examples from my own marriage and clinical practice that will help you create deeper connection with your partner.Join me as we explore the chemistry behind communication and learn how to make your partner feel truly heard. Because when we understand the "why" behind our behaviors, we can create the loving, attentive relationship we all desire.This is Todd Creager, making the world safe for love - one conversation at a time.Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

In this episode, I'm diving deep into the intimate connection between communication and sexual satisfaction. As a sex therapist, I've seen how great communication can transform couples' sex lives - and it's not just about talking! I'll show you how both verbal and non-verbal communication can create the intensity and connection needed for an extraordinary intimate relationship.What you'll discover in this episode:- Why being "right" is killing your sex life, and how to shift from debate mode to deep connection- The power of non-verbal communication (93% of all communication!) and practical ways to use eye contact, touch, and tone to create sexual chemistry- My proven techniques for conscious flirting and keeping the spark alive, especially in long-term relationships- How to use both pleasant and challenging conversations to deepen intimacy and reach your sexual potentialHere's the truth: as your communication opens up, so do the different parts of your body required for great sex. Whether you're struggling with intimate conversations or looking to take your relationship to the next level, this episode will give you practical tools to create more passion and connection in your relationship.Join me as we make the world safe for love, one conversation at a time. Trust me - your relationship will thank you for listening to this one.Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

In this episode, I'm diving into something that's absolutely crucial for keeping your relationship vibrant and alive - playfulness! While we're naturally playful during courtship, many couples lose that spark once they settle into the routine of committed life. But here's the thing - playfulness isn't about expensive vacations or grand gestures; it's about using your imagination to create magical moments in everyday life.In this episode, you'll discover:- Why maintaining playfulness is vital for long-term relationship satisfaction, and how the "functionality trap" can slowly drain the joy from your partnership- Simple, practical ways to inject spontaneity into your relationship - from impromptu dance sessions to surprise love notes (even if being playful doesn't come naturally to you)- How committed relationships can actually become a safe space for exploring new sides of yourself and taking chances with your partnerHere's something I've noticed in my years as a marriage therapist: I've never seen a couple's relationship get worse from adding more playfulness - it always improves! Whether you're naturally playful or not, this episode will give you actionable ways to bring more joy, spontaneity, and connection into your relationship, even on a regular Tuesday at 6 PM.Join me as we explore how to keep that playful spark alive in your relationship. Because remember, we're not just making relationships work - we're making them thrive with love, connection, and yes, a healthy dose of fun!Time Line:00:00 The importance of playfulness in relationships00:39 Why couples become too functional01:16 Using imagination to create playful moments02:25 Making playfulness a daily priority03:21 How committed relationships can liberate usTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com ✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/