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This week I am sharing an episode from my other podcast, Love Under the Scope. In this episode of Love Under the Scope, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships. Both Amanda and Kelby found Harville Hendrix's book Getting the Love You Want to be a key resource on their journey of understanding and healing childhood wounds with their partners. Throughout the episode, they reference concepts from the book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and offers actionable practices to help partners navigate triggers, do the inner work, and foster compassionate relationships. Listen to this episode for guidance on healing childhood wounds in long-term partnerships.Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify Follow Love Under the Scope on AppleLearn more about Love Under the ScopeFollow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:44Outro: 27:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionFor more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:58Outro: 29:25For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About RapeFor more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionSending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 3:19Outro: 28:28For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/126For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionSending you all my love.

This week I am excited to introduce a new podcast on the New View Advice podcast network - Love Under the Scope with Amanda Durocher & Kelby Knutt! Do you ever feel like you’re the only one navigating the highs and lows of a long-term relationship? If so, you’re not alone.Join Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt each week as they explore the realities, nuances, and joys of long-term love. In this candid podcast, they share personal stories, real-life advice, and fresh perspectives on what it means to grow, evolve, and thrive together in a relationship. While both Amanda and Kelby have faced their fair share of struggles, they’ve also found that these challenges have deepened their self-love, and also helped them to connect deeper with their partners. Long-term relationships can be messy and sometimes triggering, but they’re also a beautiful part of the healing journey. Tune in for honest discussions about the nitty gritty, messy, and beauty of long-term relationships and look at love under the scope.This podcast is for anyone in a long-term relationship, those interested in learning more, or those who wonder if there’s something wrong with them when they find relationships to be triggering. This podcast is here to offer all humans a new view on long-term relationships.Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify Follow Love Under the Scope on AppleLearn more about Love Under the ScopeFollow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at contact@newviewadvice.com and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening!TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45Outro: 53:15For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it. As always I emphasize the value of being kind to oneself, acknowledging feelings as part of the human experience, and finding ways to relax and calm the nervous system.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:13Outro: 22:03For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/124For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child and looking at childhood wounding can help us understand infidelity and relationship patterns better.Check out the New View Advice Infidelity Hub - newviewadvice.com/infidelityhub TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:50Outro: 27:56For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/123For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections. For anyone embarking on a second chance for love, this episode is here to reassure you that you are worthy of love. This episode is a great follow up to episode 120 – Why Am I Scared of Love?TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:53Outro: 22:31For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/122For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, and now that things are on the up and up, they find themselves afraid of everything falling apart. I discuss why we struggle to be happy, the importance of compassion, and how to navigate anxiety and other hard feelings when things feel too good to be true.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:04Outro: 27:29For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/121For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question