So Hard - A Sexuality Podcast for Men

Send us a textIn this episode of The So Hard Podcast, I'm sharing two real stories from men I’ve worked with who overcame performance anxiety in different ways. The first client was thrown into seven months of sexual shutdown and overthinking after a single, devastating comment from his partner—made worse by his anxious attachment style. The second, an experienced man with a rich sexual history, found himself frozen when he finally met someone who truly mattered.You'll hear how we unpacked the root causes of their anxiety, how attachment styles can intensify sexual fear. We'll dive deep into how nervous system healing is essential for lasting change, and how vulnerability, communication, and boundaries are the real superpowers in love and intimacy.If you’re struggling with performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, anxious thoughts, or just want a deeper understanding of the nervous system’s role in your sex life—this episode is for you.🔗 Get access to my ERECT digital training, free nervous system resources, and more at https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a textConnect with me here: https://beacons.ai/justinavictoriaThink trauma means something awful had to happen to you?Nope. We’ll unpack:Why trauma isn't an "event" and why it's my biggest pet peeve How your brain wires itself around consistent stressWhy you shut down, overthink, disconnect, or rage — and how it’s not your fault (but is your responsibility)And how to finally rewire your system so you can be happy in life and love. This episode is a call-out and a lifeline. Because that’s what I do — I help men stop suffering in silence and actually heal. You're not broken. You're dysregulated. And that can change. 

Send us a textIn this episode of The So Hard Podcast, I’m sharing the exact process I used to help a couple on the brink of divorce completely turn things around—in just three weeks.She was one of my very first clients over a decade ago. They’ve come back to me over the years when things got tough, but this time, she messaged me saying it was over. Divorce papers were coming. What happened next was a masterclass in how powerful it is to meet each other's needs, communicate clearly, and commit to doing the uncomfortable things that keep love alive.Inside, I break down:What trust in a relationship actually means (hint: it’s not just about cheating).Why unmet needs cause people to shut down, fight, or stray.The exact weekly steps I gave them that brought them from “it’s over” to 50% happier in just two weeks.How receiving love can feel uncomfortable—and what to do when you hit that ceiling.Why the thing you avoid most is probably the very thing that will change everything.Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will help you understand the inner mechanics of lasting connection—and how to shift your love life starting now.If you want to go deeper: 💻 Check out my ERECT Digital Training for men struggling with ED or performance anxiety—no coaching required, just powerful results. 📞 Book a free consultation with me to explore if 1:1 coaching is right for you.All links are below. Let’s go.https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a textLearn more about my work: https://beacons.ai/justinavictoriaThere’s a side of your heart you were never taught about.The measurable, science-backed, supernatural intelligence built into your biology.In this episode, I’m breaking down mind-blowing truths about the human heart — the kind that shift how you lead, connect, heal, and operate as a man.You’ll learn:Why your heart has its own neural network — and can make decisions faster than your brainThe experiment that proved your heart can sense future events before they happenHow a 10-minute practice can boost your immune system by 49% or moreWhy your heart emits an electromagnetic field 5,000x stronger than your brain’s — and how it affects everyone around youHow elevated emotions like gratitude and love reprogram your biology Backed by science from the HeartMath Institute and Dr. Joe Dispenza, this episode bridges ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience to show you the supernatural truth of who you really are. References: Armour, J. A. (1991). Anatomical and functional evidence for a “heart brain.” Journal of Neurocardiology. ↳ Describes the intrinsic cardiac nervous system and its ability to process information independently from the brain.McCraty, R., & Childre, D. (2010). Coherence: Bridging Personal, Social, and Global Health. Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine. ↳ Shows how heart coherence influences higher brain function and emotional regulation.McCraty, R., Atkinson, M., & Tomasino, D. (2001). Science of the Heart. HeartMath Institute Research Center. ↳ Shows how the heart emits the largest electromagnetic field in the body, and how it reflects emotional states.Rollin McCraty et al. (2004). The Energetic Heart: Bioelectromagnetic Communication Within and Between People. ↳ Discusses how the heart’s field can influence others and extend several feet from the body.McCraty, R., Atkinson, M., & Bradley, R. T. (2004). Electrophysiological Evidence of Intuition: Part 1. The Surprising Role of the Heart. Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine. ↳ Demonstrated that the heart responds to emotionally charged stimuli before the brain or body — 4–6 seconds prior. “Science of the Heart” (HeartMath Institute, 2022 edition) Available at: heartmath.org/research/science-of-the-heart It’s packed with direct citations, visuals, and summaries of decades of peer-reviewed data. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666354623000893#abs0015

Send us a textCheck out my work here: https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a textCheck out my work here: https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a textCheck out my work here: https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a texthttps://beacons.ai/justinavictoria In this episode of So Hard, psychosexual expert Justina Victoria dives into the key components often missing in relationships, especially for those struggling with insecure attachment styles. If relationships feel like an uphill battle despite your best efforts, this episode is for you. Justina reveals two essential pieces to creating the relationship you've always desired—vetting potential partners properly and mastering communication, particularly around feelings, needs, and boundaries. Learn how to break patterns that keep you stuck and transform the way you approach conflict resolution, connection, and personal growth in relationships. Whether you're frustrated with dating or ready to give up on relationships entirely, Justina offers a path forward with actionable insights that will help you thrive in love. 

Send us a textIn this episode, I talk about what it means to "be yourself" and why it's the most attractive and healthy direction to go. https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria

Send us a textIn this episode, I weight in on what erectile dysfunction really is after working to cure my clients of it for the last decade. To learn more, https://beacons.ai/justinavictoria